A lot of us encountered delays in our life. I know that we don’t like it ’cause, as human, we wanted to do things according to our timeline. We want things to move as quickly as possible. Right? To the point that we extend our efforts to attain our goals. But we don’t have that power to hold the future in our hands and we don’t know what’s up next. These delays might happen to us intentionally or unintentionally. Well, that’s for a fact! That this world is full of “Promises [that] are made to be broken”. So how can we handle this grey season? What’s really with these delays?
For the first month of the year, I encountered various delays in my 2019 journey: delay in receiving job offer from a new career, delay in sending a document to my previous company (thru a courier), delay in getting my last pay and on paying bills, and delay on the “preparation or timeline” that we set this year. It’s hard to find answers to my “whys” and its so frustrating at times when we don’t get it right away and when you keep on thinking about these stuffs.
When we resist this period of time, it creates a lot of anxiety. That’s true! And that’s not healthy for us, mentally and emotionally. But if we look closer we may find that the delay actually contains great lessons for us. So now, while “waiting”, I wanted to inspire and motivate myself – as well as the one who reads this one. So I created my own definition of the word D.E.L.A.Y.
DEMONSTRATE FAITH In the middle of doubt, respond to it through demonstrating your faith. How? I remember whenever I’m struggling and in the middle of doubt, a still small voice keeps on telling me to open my bible, have a devotion, and sing worship songs to God. I love the song “OCEANS” by Hillsong with lyrics, “Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders Let me walk upon the waters wherever You would call me Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander And my faith will be made stronger in the presence of my Savior” It’s so true that when we are in the presence of God, there is peace and your faith really increases. As we face delay, God is overtaking those panic and impatience with His peace. All we need to do is to believe that everything will be put into place. Just trust Him!
EQUIP TO HANDLE IT BETTER Through this season, other aspects in our life might builds a strong foundation – whether its in emotional, physical, intellectual or spiritual aspect. It could be a change in our attitudes and behavior on how to deal various situations. This “in-between-stage” produces perseverance, self-control and patience to wait. We could also use this time by empowering our talents and skills and get better at our craft because we have plenty of time. We must neglect procrastination and start to develop discipline on things. Figure out ways where we can use to serve others. We practice and learn during this waiting period so that when the time comes, we are equipped and better.
LET GO OF ATTACHMENTS TO OUTCOME Everyone of us has our own attachments to specific outcomes. We wanted to turn our expectations into reality. It’s really okay that we set our standards, but along the way, we might be filled with frustrations, disappointments and even heartaches if it didn’t go our way. What happens if the result isn’t what we imagined it to be? Will we stop creating? Will we stop working on our passion? There’s a moment in my life when pressure hits me, I got stagnant and stuck-up because it was really overwhelming. That my focus was on the stress and pressure and I wasn’t able to produce. Didn’t see that coming though, because my strategies and expectation were way better than that! But if you believe that you’ve done your part already, I think its the time to let go of them. We have to adapt and adjust to our surroundings, learn how to embrace what’s in our plate and concentrate on our craft – on the things we’re good at. I remember a line of a song, “If it’s meant to be, it will be, it will be…” 🙂
ACKNOWLEDGE AND APPRECIATE PROGRESS When we’re able to accept that some things are out of our control and that things don’t always happen as fast as we’d like them to, we’re able to be productive, since we’re not overwhelmed and distracted by fear and anxiety. On this stage, embrace more of your progress and your achievements rather than regretting and counting the days that were gone because you haven’t reach your goal yet. Remember that little progress is still progress. Don’t be too hard on yourself! Appreciate and have a grateful heart, then you will feel more fulfilled. One step at a time lang dear. 😉
YOUR WAYS IS NO GREATER THAN GOD’S WAY God’s ways are higher; its beyond our comprehension. Trust that He has a divine purpose for his delay. He says in Isaiah 55:8-9, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts” . Our point of view is different and limited, but God sees all things. He allows delay not for denial. Delay is a blessing in disguise to give you time for realizations and to align your plan with His. God may be putting everything in to place before revealing his answer to you. Pray harder for His guidance and revelations and wait patiently!
Throughout life, we will experience things which there are no adequate explanations. A lot of “whys“, “what ifs“, and a gazillion questions that keeps on popping most especially during delays. But I still believe that God has His own way on how to answer them in an amazing and special way. He is full of surprises and miracles! God will show you His complete and overwhelming explanations in His perfect timing so He can be glorified in the end. Hold on! He is a Promise Keeper!
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” – Proverbs 3:5 Rosy